Hey you over there, when you get out of that meeting I hope you know that your children are ok, I could tell you were thinking about them. They are so loved by so many people. When you get home and you need to do all that housework that you made lists about after you were done taking care of payroll, I hope you know that it is ok to let it wait. Let it wait so that you can roll around in the toys that didn't get put away this morning while you ran around your house trying to get ready for work. I know these days can get repetitive and feel oh so long, but you are doing amazing things. This morning when you spilled hot coffee on yourself while you tried to get your purse and diaper bag ready to go, I know you wanted to scream but instead you made a funny face at your child so they would't be upset too [on the mornings that you do scream know that we all forgive you]. Maybe no one has told you before but what you are doing takes strength and you don't need to feel bad. I am proud of you, I am proud that you are doing what you need to do to keep all the balls in the air and I hope that you have someone who helps you catch them when they fall or just listens when you are tired of it. I also see you on those days when you just kick ass at work, you are all in. You are good at your job and you know it. I hope that your child grows up and finds a job they are good at and that they know they can have it all in whatever form that means for them. You are a good mom, what you do matters. I know working outside of the home is hard, I know working from home is hard and I know just being a mom is hard. #ISupportYou.
This picture was when I got home to my baby girl after my first day back to work <3 One year ago, I went back to work. It was a struggle emotionally to decide what was best for the three of us but I know we made the right choice. I love my job, I love being a mom and for us it didn't have to be mutually exclusive. Not to toot my own horn but I think I am a damn good mom, I am also great at my job outside of the home and no amount of mommy guilt is going to make me regret my choice. It gets tiresome to read about how moms argue with each other or have these online 'mommy wars' about what is harder being a stay at home mom or a mom who also works outside of the home but they are bound to happen and I totally can get wrapped into them. I have many friends on both sides and believe me the emotions can get raw. My girlfriend Andi wrote a blog about this same type of thing for her stay at home mom friends who might not feel that what they do is important. Her blog, Your Job is Important, left me feeling all sorts of things and I had to step back and just think about it. I did not want my knee-jerk reaction to be what I left on her blog or on any of the many other posts I have seen on this same kind of topic. So instead I decided to write the letter I wish someone had sent to me because every mom needs encouragement. Your Job is Important.
Hey you over there, when you get out of that meeting I hope you know that your children are ok, I could tell you were thinking about them. They are so loved by so many people. When you get home and you need to do all that housework that you made lists about after you were done taking care of payroll, I hope you know that it is ok to let it wait. Let it wait so that you can roll around in the toys that didn't get put away this morning while you ran around your house trying to get ready for work. I know these days can get repetitive and feel oh so long, but you are doing amazing things. This morning when you spilled hot coffee on yourself while you tried to get your purse and diaper bag ready to go, I know you wanted to scream but instead you made a funny face at your child so they would't be upset too [on the mornings that you do scream know that we all forgive you]. Maybe no one has told you before but what you are doing takes strength and you don't need to feel bad. I am proud of you, I am proud that you are doing what you need to do to keep all the balls in the air and I hope that you have someone who helps you catch them when they fall or just listens when you are tired of it. I also see you on those days when you just kick ass at work, you are all in. You are good at your job and you know it. I hope that your child grows up and finds a job they are good at and that they know they can have it all in whatever form that means for them. You are a good mom, what you do matters. I know working outside of the home is hard, I know working from home is hard and I know just being a mom is hard. #ISupportYou.
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Kristen
11/11/2014 05:13:18 am
I think you said it right. Just being a mom is hard period. Stay at home or working. You do an amazing job and I hope no one ever makes you feel bad for your choice. Because Claire is the most amazing little girl and that's all you and Ryan!
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Teresa
11/11/2014 05:13:35 am
Awwww I love your truth and respect your choice! It was the best one for me and my family too.
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Stephanie
11/11/2014 05:13:56 am
Claire is the luckiest little lady to have you as her mom. It's the truest fact!
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Morgan
11/11/2014 09:40:43 am
That's very sweet. I'm proud to have a strong woman like you to call my friend. I think it's good for kids to see their mother working, motivated, dedicated, and dealing with the adversity that comes along with it. I'm sure there are benefits and pitfalls to both sides of the equation, and what's right for one family isn't right for another, but I'd agree, you're a damn good Mom.
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